As you can imagine we have some real knock down drag outs at our house sometimes. Usually over toys. We can give our boys two of the same thing and they’ll still find a reason to fight over it.
Our youngest can be a bit of an antagonist and our oldest tends to go zero to ten in nothing flat. So it’s really fun for my youngest to take things from my oldest just for the reaction. Cue the screaming, crying and tug of war. We’ve been working really hard on using kind words to ask him to stop, or to ask him to give the toy back. It’s the strangest thing, when my oldest responds in screaming, crying and trying to jerk it away my youngest holds on tighter and fights back harder. If it’s approached with kind words however, he will give it right back, no fight.
I think we all too often go straight to the fight. My mom always said “kill ‘em with kindness.”
Is there someone you seem to constantly have a struggle with, someone it’s hard to find kind words for? “Kind words are like honey— sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” Proverbs 16:24 NLT
Kindness is an offering of love, our greatest commandment. The prayer of St. Frances says “Lord make me an instrument of your peace Where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; where there is sadness, joy.”
I pray the Lord will use you today to be an instrument of peace.